In place of romance, compassion introduces us to the necessary suffering of love and therefore to abiding passion. To feel others’ pleasure, I must be able to feel their pain. Only those who recognize each other as fellow-strangers-in-the-night can forge the bonds of true kinship and learn to be kind. And kindness, not wild abandon, is the essence of abiding passion.

In place of romance, compassion introduces us to the necessary suffering of love and therefore to abiding passion. To feel others’ pleasure, I must be able to feel their pain. Only those who recognize each other as fellow-strangers-in-the-night can forge the bonds of true kinship and learn to be kind. And kindness, not wild abandon, is the essence of abiding passion.

Title Quote // Sam Keen, To Love and Be Loved