In place of romance, compassion introduces us to the necessary suffering of love and therefore to abiding passion. To feel others’ pleasure, I must be able to feel their pain. Only those who recognize each other as fellow-strangers-in-the-night can forge the bonds of true kinship and learn to be kind. And kindness, not wild abandon, is the essence of abiding passion.

In place of romance, compassion introduces us to the necessary suffering of love and therefore to abiding passion. To feel others’ pleasure, I must be able to feel their pain. Only those who recognize each other as fellow-strangers-in-the-night can forge the bonds of true kinship and learn to be kind. And kindness, not wild abandon, is the essence of abiding passion.

Title Quote // Sam Keen, To Love and Be Loved

Only those who truly love and who are truly strong can sustain their lives as a dream. You dwell in your own enchantment. Life throws stones at you, but your love and your dream change those stones into the flowers of discovery. Even if you lose, or are defeated by things, your triumph will always be exemplary. And if no one knows it, then there are places that do. People like you enrich the dreams of the worlds, and it is dreams that create history. People like you are unknowing transformers of things, protected by your own fairy-tale, by love …

Only those who truly love and who are truly strong can sustain their lives as a dream. You dwell in your own enchantment. Life throws stones at you, but your love and your dream change those stones into the flowers of discovery. Even if you lose, or are defeated by things, your triumph will always be exemplary. And if no one knows it, then there are places that do. People like you enrich the dreams of the worlds, and it is dreams that create history. People like you are unknowing transformers of things, protected by your own fairy-tale, by love …

Title Quote // Ben Okri